Monday, June 29, 2009

The Levels Of Clairsentience Part 7

What we will be looking at here is a compare and contrast of, as defined in the definition sections of these discussions, Empaths and Psychic Vampires. Its important to keep the chart, The Levels Of Clairsentience, in perspective as we look at these two very different types of abilities. At the onset, we are faced with two very different abilities with stigmas attached to each, that seem to inexplicably separate the two. But that, like so many things, is only a matter of perspective. This is why we need to journey beneath the surface to understand these two gifts in more depth. Because of the depths we must go here, lets start out with definitions and move forward from there.

The Definitions

An Empath is a person who has an acute or highly developed sense of empathy. Empathy is the capability to share your feelings and understand another's emotion and feelings, which is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes". It is said that the Empath has the ability to take in the negative emotional energy of others and transmute that energy, turning it into light energy which is then given back to the person the Empath is working with.


The term Psi Vamp has a number of names it goes by. Below you will find the majority of them and a brief description of each. It is important to note how each is similar, or simply phrased in another way.

A Psychic Vampire/Psy Vampire/Psi Vampire is a modern-day vampire who feeds on the emotional energy of other people consciously, unconsciously or through a willing donor.

Emotional Vampire is one who feeds upon the emotions of others to bolster their self-esteem and to gain attention. It is usually someone whose life revolves around drama and through guilt trips, negative comments, or by mere presence alone, tend to leave the other person feeling emotionally drained.

Energy Vampire is a person who seems to suck the energy of other people. This means, he has this unusual ability to draw energy from the people around him.

An Empathic Vampire is a vampire which feeds off the energies from emotions. Like all of the other types listed above, this to is another name for one who feeds on emotional energy. But the thing that sets this particular type apart from the others is the empathic ability the vampire possesses along with the ability to absorb energy. Empathic vampires are highly at risk health wise if they are not experienced enough with changing energies and such. There are many negative energies involved in empathic feeding, and if the vampire is incapable of handling them or changing them to more positive energies, they may take on that emotion as their own and even feel it 10 times more.

Let me start out by saying that this discussion might bring many a bit of discomfort. No one likes to imagine that their gifts and abilities are similar to or run parallel with a predatory nature or what what one might deem lecherous. But as it has been stated in other parts of this discussion, we are all human, and are all subject to the same thought process and emotions, despite what we might imagine sets apart from the collective whole. A great quote said, 'Remember that you are a unique individual, just like everyone else'.

So all of this is offered up as food for thought about the stigmas we attach to titles. And the reality that exists just beneath the surface of those titles and stigmas. So I would beseech each of you, who read this, to approach it with an open mind. Otherwise the point of this particular portion of this discussion, The Levels Of Clairsentience, is moot.

The Empath

An Empath is defined, as stated in the definition portion of this discussion, as a person who has an acute or highly developed sense of empathy. Empathy is the capability to share your feelings and understand another's emotion and feelings, which is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes".

For most, it is thought that Empathy is a gift/ability of altruism and giving because it offers support to others in their times of need and focuses specifically on their issues and problems. But beneath the surface of this gift resides the question, is it really all that altruistic? Certainly empathy can be categorized as giving of oneself, but is it really altruistic?

Beneath the surface of this gift, we must look at what motivates a person to utilize this gift/ability in the way that they do. This is because, according to the main chart, Empathy encompasses a number of energy manipulation types to bring itself into fruition which include emotional projection, emotional absorption, and emotional introjection. The implied use of these, when speaking of Empathy, is to help people. And the focus of the person employing the gift of empathy is solely on other people.

So we have empathy, which employs the three types of energy manipulation stated above, plus a focus that is externalized, rather than internalized, and we end up with an Empath. But whats missing from this equation? The answer can be found in the focus portion of the equation, because it has polarized toward the external, with no thought to the internal. What this means is that the Empath will, more often than not, seek to heal others even to their own detriment.

We touched base on this in another portion of this discussion which said: Those with low self esteem and little to no self worth will find a false sense of worth and purpose in these gifts. But this is setting oneself up for failure sooner or later, because this type of person bases all of their worth on the kind words and appreciation of the people they help, instead of on a more stable foundation. So they are always looking for more people to help.

It is an addictive action, and in a way, its like a drug addict looking for their next fix. Now that may seem a harsh comparison because the person in question is helping others. But look at the underlying causes of that offer of help. Its not altruism. Its a need to feel good about themselves, to fill that sense of emptiness they hide behind their good deeds.

It doesn't seem like a big issue until someone fails to show the proper appreciation for the help and guidance they've been given. Then it can explode in the person's face who is offering the help, because their worth is tied directly into that gratitude. And it can cause that person to crash, hard, into a deep depression. It can also leave them wondering where their gifts and purpose have disappeared to. But the truth is, it was never there in the first place, because it was simply an addictive behavior from the beginning. Or if you flip your perception, the gifts have always been there and are still there, but have been utilized in such a way that it was unhealthy for the user. And when the illusion crumbles, so to does the use of their gift to sustain that illusion. And it is a long journey to reach a point where they can use their gifts again as they used to, only in a much healthier way.

So in understanding these things, we understand that the gift of Empathy can be an unhealthy act of emotional dissociation. What this means is that the person in question pushes away from all of their own issues, because they are unable to cope with them in a healthy way, and seeks validation outside themselves, which more often than not, will end in great emotional suffering for the Empath.

Now we come to understanding where the three types of energy manipulation fit into this. Emotional projection is used, by an Empath, to set another person at ease enough to share information they would not normally open up about. Empaths are so exceptional at this, that it can bring random strangers out of the woodwork who open up within 5 minutes of meeting the Empath.

This process is furthered by the use of emotional introjection. What this means is that the Empath, who is an excellent observer, takes on the emotional and/or physical traits of other people. It is a form of mimicry used alongside the emotional projection (empath projects calm and serenity on the other person) to set the other person at ease.

The emotional absorption takes place when the person begins to open up and share their issues. Through the words the other person is infusing with emotional energy, because of the emotional situations/experiences they are talking about, the Empath is able to read them (as much as all of the other processes that occur during the Empathic process), mimic them, and help them find a resolution to the issue or the emotion, such as anger or hurt, that is attached to the situation in question.

Which brings us to the last part of the energy manipulation part of this discussion. Because the Empath is focused on the external, other people, they also excell in the ability of energy transmutation. What this means is that they have the ability to filter emotions that are handed to them, and make them lighter emotions which ease the person's suffering to a degree. It is often offered back to the other person in the same way it is given to them, through words. This is called Linguistic Empathy. (for more information about Linguistic Empathy use the search tool to the right and you will find several discussion on the topic)

So up till this point we've seen the gift of Empathy in several layers throughout these discussions: the intellectual process, the emotional process, and the energy process that occurs. But the question still remains though, is this process altruistic in its nature? The answer is simple, based on all of this information. No, when it is used as compensation for what seems to be lacking in a person's life or what they are afraid of or refuse to deal with issue wise, it is not altruistic. Instead it becomes a form of manipulation used to feed one's own ego, which in turn, never completely fills that 'hole' inside of the person.

This reality about Empathy is what makes the judgment of other types of gifts, like Psychic Vampirism, as predatory and/or lecherous stigmatic in their nature. It breeds a prejudice against other abilities or uses for these energy manipulation types, when the truth is that they are all much the same in nature at their core.

Before moving on let me state this is not offered up as a judgment against anyone. Empathy can be a wonderful and very useful gift if it is utilized in a healthy way. But to do that one must address their issues and not deny their existence or hide from them by seeking validation outside themselves. You must have a solid foundation from which to use Empathy to make it a healthy gift, which means you must balance the needs of others along with your own personal needs. Neither can be denied if one is attempting to be healthy.

The Psychic Vampire

A Psychic Vampire/Psy Vampire/Psi Vampire is a modern-day vampire who feeds on the emotional energy of other people consciously, unconsciously or through a willing donor. What this implies is that, whether conscious or unconscious, this ability is predatory and lecherous in nature because it absorbs emotional energy from other people to feed and/or sustain another person who is deemed a Psychic Vampire.

First lets look at the unconscious type. Everyone knows a person like this, who seems so focused on themselves emotionally and is deemed 'emotionally needy' that they seem to leave another person exhausted and/or 'feeling drained' at the closure of any interaction. A vast majority of us have thought it about someone at one time or another, I am sure. But is this really Pyschic Vampirism? No. Its, as stated above, an emotionally needy person who is so focused internally that they can't think about anything other than their own issues. And their interactions with others, because of that internal focus, are focused in the same light. And no, this does not automatically make the person a Narcissist by nature, as well.

I can't think of any person who has not, at least once in their lives, exhibited these tendencies because they were so overwhelmed with their own issues. Because we are all human, we all have a tendency to focus on ourselves at times, and can this appear vampiric or narcisisstic to others? Definitely. But its not necessarily true.

So we move on to the other category, the conscious type. This is one who acknowledges, whether privately or publically, that they are Vampiric by nature and that they need and/or desire energy (not speaking about sanguine vampirism in this discussion), prana, life energy, emotional energy, or whatever other name one wishes to apply to it, to sustain themselves.

This, like Empathy, is a form of Energy manipulation, which can include emotional projection, emotional absorption, and/or emotional introjection. But it, unlike an unhealthy use of Empathy, is openly manipulative, which more often than not, breeds the stigma that is often attached to it.

The stigma implies that the person in question is a natural born manipulator, possibly narcissistic or worse, and uncaring of other people in general, save for what they can offer to the Vampire. But these people are human beings who, despite their predilection for emotional energy, live normal lives, have families, work regular jobs, have normal circles of friends, and interact within a community like everyone else. To exemplify this a bit more I will offer up what is considered as the rules of the Vampire Community.

Do these rules imply that all follow them? No. Do they imply that all who claim the title Vampire are not predatory? No. But like all communities, secret or otherwise, and subcultures, what it does imply is that there are a wide variety of people within it. And to assume one thing about all of them, is simply wrong, misguided, and sometimes very prejudicial.

The Black Veil: The 13 Rules Of The Vampire Community

This lifestyle is private and sacred. Respect it as such. Use discretion in who you reveal yourself to, and make certain that your motives are to truly communicate about our culture and to engender understanding. By no means should you talk to others about yourself and our community when your motives are for selfish reasons such as self-promotion, sensationalism, and attention-getting.

Do not hide from your nature, but never show it off to the those who won't understand.

Our paths are many, even though the journey we are on is essentially the same. No single one of us has all the answers to who and what we are. Respect everyone's personal views and practices. We cannot let petty differences of ideology prevent us from maintaining a unified community; there are enough who would attack us from the outside.

Our diversity is our strength. Let our differences in viewpoint enrich us but never divide us upon ourselves.

Use sense when indulging your nature. Do not flaunt what you are in public places. Feed in private and make certain your donors will be discrete about what happens between you. Donors who create rumors and gossip about us are more harm than they're worth. If you engage in blood-letting, put safety and caution above all other things. Blood-born diseases are a very real thing, and we cannot risk endangering ourselves or others through irresponsibility. Screen donors carefully, making certain they are in good health both mentally and physically.

Never overindulge or get careless. The safety of the entire community rests upon each member's caution.

We cannot and should not deny the darkness within. Yet we should not allow it to control us. If our beast or shadow or darkside is given too much sway, it clouds our judgment, making us a danger even to those we love. Never indulge in pointless violence. Never bring willful harm to those who sustain you. Never feed only for the sake of feeding, and never give over to mindless bloodlust. We are not monsters: we are capable of rational thought and self-control.

Celebrate the darkness and let it empower you, but never let it enslave your will.

Live your life as an example to others in the community. We are privileged to be what we are, but power should be accompanied by responsibility and dignity. Explore and make use of your vampire nature, but keep it in balance with material demands. Remember: we may be vampires, but we are still a part of this world. We must live lives like everyone else here, holding jobs, keeping homes, and getting along with our neighbors. Being what we are is not an excuse to not participate in this reality.

Rather, it is an obligation to make it a better place for us to be.

We are, all of us, a family, and like all families, various members will not always get along. However, respect the greater community when having your disputes. Do not let your individual problems bring emotional strife to the family as a whole. Settle your differences quietly among one another, only seeking out an elder's aid in mediation when no other solution seems possible. Never bring your private disputes into public places and never draw other family members into the issue by forcing them to take sides. Like any normal family, we should always make an effort to present a stable and unified face to the rest of the world even when things are not perfect between us.

Our havens are safeplaces where everyone in the community can come to socialize. There are also often public places where we are likely to encounter people who don't understand our ways. We should respect the patrons of these places as we should also respect the owners of the establishments and always be discrete in our behavior. We should never bring private disputes into a haven. We should never initiate violence in a haven. And we should never do or bring anything illegal into a haven, as this reflects badly upon the community as a whole. The haven is the hub of the whole community, and we should respect it as such, supporting it without business and working to improve its name in the scene so that we can always call it home.

The community is extensive and diverse. Every city has a different way of doing things, and a different hierarchy of rule. When entering a new city, you should familiarize yourself with the local community. Seek out the local havens. Learn what Households have sway here. Get in touch with key members of the community, learn who is who, and show proper respect where it is due. You should not expect to impose your old way of doing things on this new scene. Rather you should adapt to their rules and be glad of their

acceptance. Always be on your best behavior when coming to a new city either to visit or to stay. We are all cautious and territorial by nature, and only by making the most positive impression possible will you be accepted and respected in a new community.

This lifestyle is not for everyone. Take care in who you choose to bring into it. Those who are mentally or emotionally unstable have no place among us. They are dangerous and unreliable and may betray us in the future. Make certain that those you choose to bring in are mature enough for this burden. Teach them control and discretion, and make certain that they respect our ways. You will be responsible for their actions, and their behavior in the community will be reflected back to you.

There are certain members of our community who have established themselves as just and responsible leaders. These are the people who helped establish local communities, who organize havens, and who work to coordinate the networking of the scene. While their word does not have to be law, they should nevertheless be respected. They have greater experience than many others, and usually greater wisdom. Seek these elders out to settle your disputes, to give you guidance and instruction, and to help you establish yourself in the local scene.

Appreciate the elders for all they have given you: if it was not for their dedication, the community would not exist as it does now.

Without those who offer themselves body and soul to us, we would be nothing. We cannot be other than what we are, but it is the donors who sustain our nature. For this service, they should be respected. Never mistreat your donors, physically or emotionally. They are not to be manipulated or leeched off of for more than what they freely offer. Never take them for granted. Appreciate them for the companionship and acceptance which they offer us, which so many others would refuse.

This above all: appreciate the gift of their life. That communion is sacred. Never fail to treat it as such.

When you choose to take a position of authority in the community, remember that you do not lead for yourself alone. Leadership is a responsibility, not a privilege. A good leader must set an example for everyone through his actions and behavior. His motives should be selfless and pure, and he should put the interests of the whole community before his own.

The best leaders are those who serve to better the community and whose person and behavior gives no one -- even those outside of the community -- a reason to criticize them.

Being a vampire is not just about feeding upon life. That is what we do, but not necessarily what we are. It is our place to represent darkness in a world blinded by light. We are about being different and accepting that difference as something that empowers us and makes us unique. We are about accepting the dark within ourselves and embracing that darkness to make us whole beings. We are about celebrating the thresholds: body and spirit, pleasure and pain, death and life. Our lives should be lived as a message to the world about the beauty of accepting the whole self, of living without guilt and without shame, and celebrating the unique and beautiful essence of every single soul.

In addition to the above 13 tenets, the central focus of the Black Veil is respect for the laws of one's local government and community. The Black Veil stands for the respect to not perform any criminal or illegal activities and that minors will not participate in any Sanguinarium community affairs until they are of legal adult age.

The Conclusion

So what does all of this mean? No one is everything they might seem on the surface and everyone is much more than than one single title can cover. We are multifaceted beings with many faces, many of which we don't show to the outside world. Titles limit who and what we are, particularly if they have a stigma attached to them, whether it is one of altruism or one of a predator. Is an Empath just an Empath? No. Is a Vampire just a Vampire? No. Its simply food for thought. So think about it.

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