Thursday, July 23, 2009

Perception, Perspective, & The Empath

On one site, Perception is defined as the process by which organisms interpret and organize sensation to produce a meaningful experience of the world.

Another defines Perception as:
1. awareness of the elements of environment through physical sensation
2. physical sensation interpreted in the light of experience
3. quick, acute, and intuitive cognition
4. a capacity for comprehension

Your perception decides what you see first dependent on what you focus on through. In the picture to the right, do you see a vase or two faces sitting nose to nose? Neither answer is wrong, it is simply a difference of perspective. Which brings us to perspective, or point of view, also called personal perspective and cognitive perspective.

Perspective is defined as:
1. The appearance of objects in depth as perceived by normal binocular vision.
2. a. The relationship of aspects of a subject to each other and to a whole: a perspective of history; a need to view the problem in the proper perspective. b. Subjective evaluation of relative significance; a point of view: the perspective of the displaced homemaker. c. The ability to perceive things in their actual interrelations or comparative importance: tried to keep my perspective throughout the crisis.
3. The technique of representing three-dimensional objects and depth relationships on a two-dimensional surface.

A great and early example of central perspective can be seen in Herod's Feast by Masolino (1435), where many receding horizontal lines project to a single central vanishing point. This is one-point perspective because the horizontal (black) and vertical (white) sets of parallel lines project as parallel in the picture.

Perspective in theory of cognition is the choice of a context or a reference (or the result of this choice) from which to sense, categorize, measure or codify experience, cohesively forming a coherent belief, typically for comparing with another. One may further recognize a number of subtly distinctive meanings, close to those of paradigm, point of view, or a reality tunnel.

Cognitive perspective, also known as Point of View refers to the aspect being looked from. It differs from the narrative point of view. If you are talking from your point of view, you would talk about what you want, need or feel like. To get a person to do something, it is much better to talk from the other person's point of view. That includes talking about what is in it for the other person. Talking about it in terms of what is good for the other person and what they will get in return, while afterwards talking about what you want the person to do.

In social psychology one would talk in terms of the other person's point of view when soliciting or motivating the other person to do something for you. Being able to see the other person's point of view is one of Henry Fords advice towards being successful in business. "If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own".

Now we come to what this all has to do with you, as an Empath. Empathy is defined as the capability to share and understand another's emotions and feelings and is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes". This means the one who exhibits this trait or ability, as an Empath, has the capacity to not only share feelings, but to readily share the other person's perspective or "see through another person's eyes".

To understand this, is to understand yourself and what you are truly capable of and to truly understand others. You can not do one without the other. And to build your own 'storehouse' or 'catalog' of perspectives you need to be aware of everything around you, the things you experience, the people you share your life with, your experiences, the art you view, the music you listen to, the books and information you read, because each is a multilayered lesson in enhancing and broadening of your own perspective. If you can do this then you can see above the emotions that bind you to the moment to understand the other layers of any person and/or situation.

David Cronenberg made a great statement about perspective, which applies here:

"When you're in the muck you can only see muck. If you somehow manage to float
above it, you still see the muck but you see it from a different perspective.
And you see other things too. That's the consolation of philosophy."

When you allow yourself to have a wide spectrum perspective along side an experiential perspective, as opposed to simply an experiential one alone, it cuts out the need for tinted glasses over your personal perspective. Another way to see it is that it cuts out the need for personal prejudices which might hinder you from helping someone based on your personal experiences with a particular group of people. This can include, but is not limited to, titles, weight, race, skin color, sexual orientation, age, and personalities that differ so much from our own we find it offensive.

Let me ask you something, and since this is a blogsite you do not have to answer, merely think about it. Have you ever crossed the street to get away from someone who was walking in the opposite direction, because something about them seemed 'rough' or 'dangerous', or made you uncomfortable? Sadly, this is a type of prejudice based on their exterior. And while its good to worry about your own safety, to do so to the extent you exclude others based on such superficial prejudices blocks out a plethora of experiences you can learn from.

Your view of the world is only as broad or as limited as you let it be. And that only happens when you get beyond your own hang-ups about weight or skin color or personality type and experience what those other people have to offer.

Does this say be naive and walk into danger blindly just for the experience? No, of course not. This process also teaches you to be aware of those around you, but at deeper levels than simply the superficial. Awareness and understanding blended with free will and choice, equals balanced choice of who you let into your life and what is worth experiencing.

It also allows you to see your own patterns of behavior, such as addictive behaviors. If you have low self esteem, and you seem to draw the type of people to you that help press that feeling of worthlessness upon you and/or use or abuse you, then this is an unhealthy and addictive behavior which only needs to be acknowledged and understood to start to change.

If you help people because you need their adulation to feel good about yourself, then it is an unhealthy and addictive behavior. But if you see what your doing, which is the right thing for the wrong reasons, then you can still continue what you do when you change the reasons for doing it. This makes it healthy. But this process again must begin with you, and not those you reach out to.

All the tools you need are within you, if you can find the strength to utilize them. You don't even need me to write this blog for it to happen for you. But it might help the process along a little to see it. And everyone will come upon that moment at least once in their lives where they see something wrong with whats going on around them or perhaps what they are doing is wrong, even if there is a bit of discomfort and shame and/or guilt at your own behaviors. Point is you don't have to share it with anyone to do it. But its well worth the doing. Its one of those rare life changing moments in your life, that you can't look away from unless you ignore it and run back to the safty of your own safe perceptions or your 'comfort zone'.

Quotes On Perspective

"Bias and impartiality is in the eye of the beholder." - Lord Barnett

"I see every thing I paint in this world, but everybody does not see alike. To the eyes of a miser a guinea is more beautiful than the sun, and a bag worn with the use of money has more beautiful proportions than a vine filled with grapes." - William Blake

"Perspective, as its inventor remarked, is a beautiful thing. What horrors of damp huts, where human beings languish, may not become picturesque through aerial distance! What hymning of cancerous vices may we not languish over as sublimest art in the safe remoteness of a strange language and artificial phrase! Yet we keep a repugnance to rheumatism and other painful effects when presented in our personal experience." - George Eliot

"The seeing of objects involves many sources of information beyond those meeting the eye when we look at an object. It generally involves knowledge of the object derived from previous experience, and this experience is not limited to vision but may include the other senses: touch, taste, smell, hearing, and perhaps also temperature or pain." - R. L. Gregory

Saturday, July 18, 2009

The Language Of Empathy Part 2

So here is where we take all of the pieces of the puzzle that is The Language Of Empathy, and make some sense of them and the process the human mind uses to connect with other people. Obviously you can't just have the pieces, without having a way to put them together to understand them.

The Empathic Process, which was gone over in the last Language of Empathy, has to do with two areas of a person, Emotional and Cognitive Empathy. Within these two categories we have several different things that make up the Empathic Process: Emotional Contagion, Identification, True Empathy, Perspective Taking, Theory of Mind, and Cognitive Empathy.

All of the examples of metaphors and symbols are pieces of this puzzle, that can help enhance ones Empathic experience. So lets look at each and apply the different types of metaphors and symbols to it.

Emotional contagion is taking on the emotions of others that are in one's line of site. To internalize it, though, we use identification and then true empathy, to make it happen. We see their pain, we internalize it, and then we feel real empathy. In this same process, we take the issues we've had, which we used to identify with other people's pain and do a compare/contrast to find similarities, which is perspective taking. And then we use theory of mind, based on our own experiences with these issues, to predict what outcomes will occur with different solutions to the issue at hand. And we choose the best path for the other person we can come up with.

The biggest point to note here is the shifting of perspectives and the identification with other people's suffering through our own experiences. This is where the Language of Empathy occurs. And it all occurs in the form of metaphors and symbols. This would be why this process is sometimes easier to understand for those who work in an artistic medium like visual arts or writing. They have already begun to train their minds how to do this kind of metaphor interpretation so it is easier to apply to real life situations.

Here is the crux of this discussion though. You don't just have your own experiences to draw from as a learning tool in this process. All of the experiences you shared in with other people, music, books, paintings, and everything else can be drawn upon to help you find a solution.

You instinctively know what a song means, based on what it makes you feel. It pulls on you, like experiences in your past have. You instinctively know how a character in a book feels, be relating it to your own experiences, and yes that includes sci-fi. The point isn't the subject of the book, but that its still about human beings which you can relate to on a personal and human level. You see a piece of art and it simply calls to you, for some unknown reason, because its shape, its colors, or its design remind you of past events in your life.

An optical illusion exemplifies this process, even if its purpose is not obvious to the looker, because it forces the mind to consciously shift perspectives. This is done in movies sometimes as well to smooth the transition from one section of film into another. Its also done in poetry, music and art.

To make it easier, lets look at a few examples. Sometime ago I put together a sideshow using nothing but blue eyes, but it tells a story and flows along just like a song or a poem might. Let yourself feel the transition, even though there are no words or music to carry your emotions.

This can be seen in music as well. This song, for someone who has suffered heartbreak, will feel empowering even if they don't care for this type of music, because they can relate to the words and the tempo of the music.

In this piece of art a person can understand and relate to it, because they can see themselves in the place of the subject. It doesn't matter that they have wings. The colors dark hues and subdued tones speak to the subjects state of mind as much as the pose of the body and everything else. Its all in the detail, even if you don't perceive it at the conscious level.

In words it can be found in books and poetry the world over, as people express feelings of their own suffering and that of others. We identify with it because we have suffered, despite the differences in that suffering. Here is an example in a poem:

The Bitter Mirror

Gaze no more into the bitter glass,
for eternity beckons as the time does pass,
where long ago visions echo and haunt,
and voices engraved upon the shattered heart,
belittle and taunt.

Dwell no more on realities past,
for the celestine future is infinite and vast,
where you walk into choices unbound,
and your footsteps tread upon memory's ground.

Learn from today and yesteryear gone,
and raise your voice high in futures resounding song,
for the future, today, and things that echo in recognition stark,
are the lessons you bear to light the way through the dark.

So dwell not upon the mirror that frames so complete
the totality of you where past and present meet,
and look to the stars in heavenly expanse,
for the future is limitless in one single glance.

Where you are complete, single, and whole,
and memories are naught but virtues to extol,
the journey you walked and the path that you tread,
of a life lived well and happy instead.

And to make the point even clearer, even the design of this website was chosen carefully to empower you. Red is a color used for passion and high emotion. The red energy turning into flowers upon the top of rubble is quite literally the potential of what you can do for yourself. And the fact that its not personalized toward me, so you can get to know me, is to allow you to know that this journey, to emotional health and understanding of your gifts is all about you.

This is all the Language of Empathy, as much as dreams, metaphors, and synchronicity. Its about being able to understand how and why we expand our minds and hearts beyond ourselves, to help others, to care for others, and to be the person we were meant to be.

Think about it.

Wednesday, July 15, 2009


I was laying in bed one night, feigning sleep because I was restless for some reason. I was around 18 and preparing to move out of my family home and in with my long time boyfriend, so I had newspapers scattered all over the wooden floor in my room from packing boxes. Suddenly my nerves went on high alert because I heard the newspaper crackle, like someone was stepping on it. I felt chills go through me as I my nerves snapped to attention, even as I kept my eyes closed. The crackling footstep noises drew closer and closer to my bed. And then I heard my name whispered just outside of my own ear on what sounded like a heavy breath of air.

This was just one in a number of incidences that had occurred over a number of years in that house. A deeper explanation would take you through all of them, back to a time when I invited all of this into that home, without knowing how to stop it. But that's a story best left for another time.

At the time I had no idea there was a name for what I had experienced, until I discovered the Clair Abilities and heard the term Clairaudience. I offer it up to you, the reader, as a personal experience of Clairaudience, to help you understand it a little better. So lets look at what this Clair Ability is in some more depth.

Another name for Clairaudience is 'clear hearing'. It is defined as the act or the power of hearing something not present to the ear but regarded as having objective reality. Clairaudience can include hearing sounds such as music or ringing, as well as voices. Like clairvoyance, clairaudience can be divided into two types, objective clairaudience, which occurs in the real world so that anyone can hear it (meaning outside of ones head), and subjective clairaudience, which occurs only in one's mind. It should be noted here that it is believed that objective clairaudience, is considered a far rarer gift than subjective clairaudience.

Some Questions To Ask Yourself About Clairaudience

1. Do you experience Subjective Clairaudience?

2. Do you experience Objective Clairaudience?

3. If you experience Subjective Clairaudience does communication come through a conversation, individual words, or a mixture of both?

4. If you experience Subjective Clairaudience, how do you personally, know that what you are hearing is clairaudience and not your imagination - do you have any advice for developing mediums on how to tell the difference?

5. Has your perception of your clairaudience remained the same during your development or has it changed and if so, in what way?

6. Do you ever experience a ringing sensation, noises or pressure in your ears?

Exercises To Develop Clairaudience


Surround yourself in the light with your protective ritual. Sit comfortably in a chair with your notebook or recorder close by. Relax and just try to be in the moment. State your intention to your guide and ask that he/she communicate with you. If you don't know your guides name as him/her what they would like to be called. Don't try to "listen", but try to relax.. If you already know your guides name, start with another simple question and then relax. After a couple of minutes bring yourself back and record anything you perceived. It may be a thought that "pops" into your head, or a sound, or whisper... record everything you experienced. Continue to do this exercise until you receive your guides name, or the answer to the question you presented.

Another exercise is to surround yourself with your protective ritual as above. Again sit and relax, stating your intention to communicate with your guide. This time focus on an image in your mind, in your mind "say" what it is once, and then listen.. Ask your guide to communicate with you about the image. You could also focus on a physical object in the room where you are. Pay attention while doing your best to relax. Make notes of anything you receive.

Clairvoyance (Quiz)

What is Clairvoyance? How does it work? Can it be tested? Are there ways to develop this form of intuition and/or Clair Ability which is part of Extra-Sensory Perception (ESP)? Lets look at all of these, shall we?

The term Clairvoyance, or clear vision, a form of extra-sensory perception. A person said to have the ability of clairvoyance is referred to as a is used to refer to the ability to gain information about an object, person, location or physical event through means other than the known human sensesclairvoyant ("one who sees clearly").

Another definition says Clairvoyance, or clear seeing, is the gift of second sight. Clairvoyance is a visual form of ESP (extra-sensory perception) involving perceiving or intuiting information by way of seeing auras, colors, images, or symbols via third eye sensory. Other common forms of ESP are clairaudience (inner hearing), clairsentience (feeling or sensory experience), and knowing (unwavering awareness).

Some Basic Question To Ask Yourself About Your Clairvoyance
1. Do you vividly recall dreams in the morning?
2. Do you see flashes in the corner of you eyes and when you turn to see what was there you don't see anything?
3. Do you often get the feeling of dejavu?
4. Do you see images when your eyes are closed?

Types of Clairvoyance

There are basically four types of clairvoyance:

1. Psychological Clairvoyance
2. Spatial Clairvoyance
3. Astral Clairvoyance
4. True Spiritual Clairvoyance.

Psychological Clairvoyance
This is a term which we have invented ourselves to cover a certain type of clairvoyance. Most of us are very much familiar with those curious attractions and repulsions which we often feel for many people. There are some people whom we instinctively like or dislike, and for such a feeling, very often, we are unable to provide a valid reason. This is due to the perception of psychological clairvoyance. The psychological clairvoyance may also be termed as ‘psychic counseling’.

Spatial Clairvoyance
This type is also known as clairvoyance in space and time. Psychometry is in itself clairvoyance in time, using an object as a starting point and as a point of reference. Actually, this type can also be exercised without using an object, but concentration upon it helps to keep the clairvoyant faculty working within those limits. As we say, the object can be omitted and many people can exercise this clairvoyance in time without practically having any blank idea of what they are doing. Some people even find that, although they are not aware of possessing any psychic power, yet, when they are touching old furniture or antiques, dim pictures and emotions arises in their mind and automatically they become nostalgic. This dim clairvoyant perception is far more common than is generally realized.

Astral Clairvoyance
The next type of clairvoyance we have called ‘Astral Clairvoyance.’ By this we mean the perception of apparently living beings that have no physical body. The Devas or the ’shinning ones’, the ‘Lordly Ones’ of Celtic tradition, the Spirits of the elements; all live and have their being in the ethereal and astral realms. You may see some of these entities as your clairvoyance begins to unfold, and their activities form a fascinating field of study for the clairvoyant investigator. It is in this field of clairvoyance that you need to exert great care, for you will be making contacts with living beings of many different types, and not all of them will be friendly. This great world of astral is also known as the World of Illusion.

True Spiritual Clairvoyance
We have now come to the last and final type of clairvoyance i.e. the Spiritual Clairvoyance. In the system of thought to which we give our allegiance, virtue, sanity and true spirituality lies within the purview of spiritual clairvoyance. At the end all life, all consciousness, all faculties, come from the Divine, but all work is manifest under immutable natural law.

Clairvoyance Quizzes

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Ways To Develop Clairvoyance

The Rose Meditation

This meditation is often used by people who are keen to develop their powers of clairvoyance, and this may even be you. Practice this meditation at least every few days to begin with and you will notice that your clairvoyant powers become stronger each time you use it.

1. Sit comfortably and in a place where you will not be disrupted. Light a candle or some incense if you wish to inspire yourself towards spirituality. Sit with your spine upright and close your eyes.

Begin to breathe deeply through your nose and relax, relax, relax, releasing all bodily and mental tensions. Whenever you find your attention wavering, return your focus to your breath and follow each inhalation and exhalation.

2. After a few minutes of meditation and focusing on your breath you will be feeling much more relaxed and open to use your powers of clairvoyance.

Take your attention now to the area between your eyebrows, your eyebrow centre, your third-eye. This is the place where you will see flashes and images that are related to your clairvoyant perception.

With your eyes still closed, focus on the area between your eyebrows. You might even feel it become warm, or tingle, or feel as though there is a band slightly tightening around your head. These are all common signs that your clairvoyant powers are beginning to warm up.

3. Now visualise a tightly closed rosebud in this space between your eyebrows. Really focus on it and allow your mind to imagine it in magnificent detail: its colour, scent and shape.

Now see the rose slowly opening to full bloom, expanding and exposing all its beauty to you.

4. Imagine now that you are giving the rose to someone you know, a friend, colleague or family member. Do this in your mind and imagine passing the rose over to them.

As soon as you have passed it to them, what do you notice about the rose? Has its colour changed? Or has it expanded or contracted? Allow your mind to be relaxed and open and notice what happens to the rose.

5. Now imagine passing your beautiful rose to someone else you know. What do you notice happens to the rose this time?

What you see when you pass the rose across will psychically tell you something about that person. If it shrinks, perhaps that person is less giving than you or more introverted and shy, shrinking into themselves.

If the rose multiplies, that indicates that the other person is very generous in spirit and is a giving soul. If it changes colour, that reveals something to you about the nature of their personality.

Allow yourself to perceive any changes that happen to your rose as you pass it across to the other person.

6. When you have finished passing the rose around and paying attention to the ways in which it changes when it is exchanged, take your attention back to your breath. After a minute refocusing on your breath, slowly begin to move and wake up your body and open your eyes. You have now completed your rose meditation.

How to Predict Your Day Ahead Using Clairvoyance

Use this meditation every day for a month and watch your clairvoyant abilities explode! You will soon be amazing yourself on a regular basis.

This technique is incredibly powerful to reveal forces, energies and happenings which will occur to you and others during the day ahead. Needless to say, this is a meditation only suitable to practice in the morning!

To begin, repeat steps 1-2 as above to make yourself comfortable, relaxed and prepared to use your clairvoyant powers to predict the day ahead.

Step 3. Take your attention next to your third eye, the area between your eyebrows. Focus at this point for 30 seconds, keeping your attention on this area of your body.

4. When you feel totally relaxed and ready to continue, mentally ask to be shown pictures which show you what will happen in your life today.

As soon as you have asked, pay attention to the very first impressions and images you receive in your mind's eye. Your natural powers of clairvoyance will show you snapshots of what will happen during the day ahead. Your ability to perceive these snapshots will greatly improve with consistent practice.

Trust the very first pictures you receive. Clairvoyant images often last only a second and then vanish. You might be shown a picture of someone being generous to you today and then it's gone as quickly as it appeared. Or perhaps you will see a large pile of papers stacked up in front of you, indicating that you will have a very busy day ahead.

Simply ask the question and then take the first responses you get. Using your intuitive clairvoyant powers requires nothing more of you than this.

5. When you have seen a few snapshots and have a sense of what your day will be like, return your attention to your breath. Gently bring some physical movement back into your body and gradually open your eyes. Your prediction meditation for your day ahead is now complete.

Repeat this meditation daily and watch your accuracy skyrocket from week to week. Over a short while your intuitive senses will become so heightened that you will pick up on the moods and behavior of the people around you. This is quite normal as your natural sensitivity becomes more finely tuned.

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Monday, July 13, 2009

The Clair Abilities (Quiz)

I thought it pertinent to offer up a list of the Clair Abilities, which includes Clairsentience ~ which in turn, includes Empathy. ^_^ I found these wonderful definitions here at The Clair Abilities.

Clear Seeing. This does not mean that they have sight of the future or past, like seers; however they sometimes can give information into your future or past by visioning an incident or scene. Clairvoyance is associated with the 6th Chakra known as the 3rd eye. Clairvoyants are able to see places, people, words, or objects within the minds eye; they read for people by describing to them what it is that they can see. They also have the abilities to see auras, guides and other energies. They do not see like we do physically in 3-D form but rather like a vision or a dream. The images just appear within our mind. These visions can appear as if they are watching a movie or may even be still images like a photograph. Occasionally the clairvoyant feels as if they are actually there physically and watching the scene.

ClairsentienceClear Sense. This is where the person feels or senses things. This can be emotional feelings or feeling physical pain that has occurred. You could always refer to this as our intuition. Although there may be no knowledge of where this feeling is coming from or who it is from, it is just simply there, it is known. This is the ability to feel what others can feel.

ClaircognizantClear Recognition. People often confuse this with clairsentience. This is the ability to know something, no-one tells them and it is not something that they’ve read before, they just simply know it. It is an inner feeling, gut feeling, something which is just known. They have an ability to answer questions and back them up with facts; when before they did not know anything.

ClairaudienceClear Hearing. This means that they have the ability to hear information and things that are not actually near them; such as voices, tones, bells, music, song and other types of sound. They receive information from spirits, which could be the spirit of a loved one who is being read for or it could be spirit guides. Some clairaudients hear these voices on a physical level whilst others hear the voice in their head. Some skeptics often argue that it is all within their imagination. However, these words come to clairaudients at such a fast rate that they wouldn’t have time to think of these words themselves even if they wanted to. These people are often misjudged as to “hear voices” is sometimes thought of as to be crazy or even schizophrenic. Some clairaudients pick up on conversations when there is no one near them or within hearing distance.

Clear Scent. These are people who are able to smell fragrances, or substances that are not near them. This can include perfumes, smoke, alcohol, food, coffee and so on.

ClairgustantClear Taste. These people are able to taste substances without even putting anything in their mouth. This could be cigarettes, food or drink. Sometimes the person will drink water or something with no taste in order to pick up/receive tastes from a person that they are reading.

A great quiz to discover what Clair Ability you possess can be found here:
What Clair Abilities Do You Have? Claircognizance, Clairsentience, Clairvoyance, Clairaudience, Clairscentist, Or Clairgustant ?

Here are my results:

You Scored as Claircognizance ~ Clear Knowing

Claircognizance is having knowledge of people or events that an individual would not normally have knowledge about. It is an inner or gut feeling, something which is just known like a premonition.

Clairaudience ~ Clear Hearing

Clariscentist or Clairalience ~ Clear Smelling

Clairsentience ~ Clear Sensing or Clear Feeling

Clairvoyance ~ Clear Seeing

Claircognizance ~ Clear Knowing

Clairgustance or Clairambience~ Clear Taste


Saturday, July 11, 2009

The Metaphor Of Pictures

Lets look at some examples of pictures, to understand the feel of each of them, how they are similar and how they differ. And what makes a picture tell a story, even if there is no one in it.

Example 1

This picture makes me think of Mardi Gras, since I grew up in New Orleans as a child. But because I can personalize this picture so easily, or identify with it, it also makes me feel nostalgic. I think of all the friends I had, that I haven't seen in years. All the years of going to parades and getting doubloon, beads, and other trinkets. The whole city feels like its in a week long festival.

The absence of people in the picture does not make its ability to tell a story, for me, any less. I see it and my mind automatically thinks of all of those people's joy, excitement, and pleasure.

But on that same note, it can make me think of my family's personal tragedy for going through Katrina. I know, its not a picture of damage, homes destroyed, people left homeless, or anything else heartbreakingly sad, but it can be for me if I let it be, because beneath that one emblem of New Orleans is a world of people's suffering that touched me and my family personally.

The point is, I can associate it with either of those two perspectives, happy and fun or utter desolation and loss. It simply depends on my frame of mind at the time, my experiences with these emblems (whether I've been through it personally or simply read about it secondhand), and what I think it means, as a metaphor. But beyond those things that I associate with it, it has a meaning for everyone. So in asking what you feel from it, it doesn't matter what it is you see, only that you see. There is no right or wrong in this.

Example 2

A simple blue eye. What does this mean? Of course it can have many meanings, but lets look at some of the things you can associate with a blue eye. The term azure sight, which can be readily projected on this image because of its eye color and is used sometimes in poetry to proclaim one one as having clear sight, is used sometimes to mean that one can see clearly, beyond all of of the masks people put up to shield their true selves from the world.

As well, it can be used to describe an Empath, if one understands its meaning. And while your thoughts might instead first lean toward seeing this as Clairvoyance, which means Clear Sight, let me explain a bit. An Empath, which we have defined so often on Empathic Perspectives, is one who can feel other people's emotions. They have the ability to push beyond the boundaries others build up around themselves to get to the heart of many problems and issues. So if one takes it in this light, that feeling is a type of seeing, even if one sees through feeling instead of vision and/or sight, then one can use an eye as a metaphor for an Empath.

As well, if one thinks about auras, the color blue has its own meanings. Here is one such meaning taken from, New Age Spirituality: The Meaning Of Aura Colors:

Blue is the color of spirituality, intuition, inspiration and inner peace. It is also associated with sadness and depression (the "blues"). In healing blue is used for cooling and calming, both physically and mentally. In the aura blue indicates serenity, contentment and spiritual development.

Another site, which is titled The Aura Color Meaning Of Blue, says:

THE BLUE AURA GROUP: This interesting group of astral colors represents the varying forms and degrees of religious emotion, "spirituality," etc. The highest form of spiritual, religious feeling and thought is represented by a beautiful, rich, clear violet tint, while the lower and more gross phases of religious emotion and thought are represented by the darker and duller hues, tints, and shades until a deep, dark indigo is reached, so dark that it can scarcely be distinguished from a bluish black. This latter color, as might be expected, indicates a low superstitious form of religion, scarcely worthy of the latter name. Religion, we must remember, has its low places as well as its heights--its garden grows the rarest flowers, and at the same time the vilest weeds.

High spiritual feelings--true spiritual unfoldment--is indicated by a wonderfully clear light blue, of an unusual tint, something akin to the clear light blue of the sky on a cool autumn afternoon, just before sunset. Even when we witness an approach to this color in Nature, we are inspired by an uplifting feeling as if we were in the presence of higher things, so true is the intuition regarding these things.

Morality, of a high degree, is indicated by a series of beautiful shades of blue, always of a clear inspiring tint. Religious feeling ruled by fear, is indicated by a shade of bluish gray. Purple denotes a love of form and ceremony, particularly those connected with religious offices or regal grandeur of a solemn kind. Purple, naturally, was chosen as the royal color in the olden days.

So, when one begins to look at the blue eye, if one separates the two words, 'blue' inspires its own connotations and meanings, while the word 'eye' does the same on its own. And when you bring those two ideas together into one phrase 'blue eye', it creates its own unique meaning.

Because I also write poetry and this is a metaphor I use in my writing sometimes, this is the context through which my understanding of the term 'blue eye' is formed. It certainly doesn't mean that this is the only meaning of this phrase, but only how I might associate it with a picture I see, if I personalize it to see myself within it.

Example 3
The Geisha is a wonderful idea because it takes the idea of wearing a mask and being something, other than oneself, to please others and externalizes it. The face is painted to accentuate certain ideals that the Japanese find pleasing, much like a doll is done for both Western and Eastern societies. In a way she is like a living doll, because she is accomplished in many different forms of art, and it is as much about the detail of that art as it is about what image she projects to others through the use of costume, like Kimono, hairstyles and makeup.

Through all of her accessories or props, she is able to be what others wish her to be, whether that is seduction or innocence. The face is painted in such a way as to leave a hint of skin showing at the back of the neck, while the rest is a pale white and the hair is put into an upsweeping design, in order to hint at seduction but not bring it to the forefront.

As Empaths, we tend to do this, as well, in our own style and fashion. We set aside ourselves for a certain amount of time to help or please others. In this discussion, the point is not to ask about motivations, or to ask whether or not it is selfish or unselfish. It simply is what it is, because you do it despite motivation. You become what others need you to be in order to help them.

A great quote from the movie, Memoirs Of A Geisha, helps make this point: 'She paints her face to hide her face. Her eyes are deep water. It is not for Geisha to want. It is not for geisha to feel. Geisha is an artist of the floating world. She dances, she sings. She entertains you, whatever you want. The rest is shadows, the rest is secret.'

An image of a geisha with perhaps a word, a tattoo, or an object with her helps to exemplify who and/or what she is and what she can do. Take the image with a geisha who bears the tattoo of a spider. The spider in itself has its own meaning. One such meaning, which can be found in the idea of the Spider Totem, helps make the point of the picture more apparent.

Spider is the weaver connecting the knowledge of the past with the possibilities of the future. Notice that the shape of the body loosely resembles the sign for infinity.

Also notice that the center of the web is always small (you), and the web ever expanding (your possibilities).

Spider cautions us not to get locked into the illusion that has made you what you think you are. Our behavior, and our belief systems, and our view of ourselves is locked into an illusion of who we truly are that was created for us by others; usually starting as a small child. As we grow, our life becomes a reflection of those illusions, and those of us who do not follow that pattern are "rebels" or "black sheep" or other terms that imply non-conformity.

We are locked into that illusion because it has become our "comfort zone", and it is our fears of the unknown and untested which keep us in that zone. It is far easier to live in the hell we know, than to stick our mental and emotional toes out into the world and chance discovering that there is another way which may be better for us.

Spider is telling us that the possibilities for each of us is only limited by our own view of ourselves. Notice that the web constantly grows, outward, still connected to that small center space. It is always reaching, always expanding, never satisfied with the status quo. When something of value get caught in the web, it is taken back to that small center and utilized; never wasted. It may be stored for later use, but it is never wasted.

The next time you come upon spider weaving its web, stop to really look. Notice the beauty and symmetry and balance; the careful and intricate design. Spider is telling you to have the courage to reach out and create your own tomorrows; to break out of the illusion that has you locked in a time-step, and discover who and what you truly are.
When you combine the two ideas of the geisha and the spider, it means possibilities of expanding oneself are limitless. It says that the person, who uses this picture as their own metaphor, is aware of this and wishes others to know it. In Empath terms, it means one who sets themselves aside to help others reach unlimited possibilities. That is why I often use the image of the Spider Geisha when I work with people.

The Conclusion

In this discussion you've seen a number of images that have a personal meaning to me, and why I feel a personal connection with each. I would suggest you search for pictures that represent you to use as avatars, if you prefer not to use your own pictures online. Be the person you are. It can be done through metaphor and pictures, as much as it can be done with a picture of yourself.

Once you begin to find things that represent you, other metaphors get easier to understand, because you will begin to see how others might connect with it, personalize it, internalize it, interpret it and/or identify with it.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009


This discussion is to look at some information about Claircognizance, which is one of the Clair abilities: clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairalience, clairsentience, and clairgustance. So lets start with some basic information and move deeper into it from there.

The Definitions

Claircognizance , also referred to as Clear Recognition or Clear Knowing, is the ability to know something, no-one tells them and it is not something that they’ve read before, they just simply know it. It is an inner feeling, gut feeling, something which is just known. They have an ability to answer questions and back them up with facts; when before they did not know anything.

Claircognizance means ‘clear-knowing’. Claircognizants ‘know’ certain things without being told. For claircognizants, their higher self or spirit guides put information (in the form of thought) into their mind. This can be a whole load of information that is ‘downloaded’ into the mind. It can be smaller insights about people and situations here and there. It can be an inspired idea. All claircognizance is characterized by this strong sense of knowing that goes beyond logic and by the fact that the intuitive information comes into the mind, not into the heart or the mind’s eye.

You May Be Claircognizant if...

You may be Claircognizant or intuitive and have an inner knowing about things if the information, idea, concept or thought "just comes to you" and has the feeling of "this is important". The knowledge you receive often flashes suddenly into your mind seemingly "out of no where". You may know who is on the phone before you answer it or know personal things about people you just met. You just know something, although you may not know why or how you know it.

Examples Of Claircognizance

1. After misplacing an object, you suddenly 'know' where the object is. And when you look in the place you find it. There is no rhyme or reason for this either.

2. Automatic Writing, which is the process or production of writing material that does not come from the conscious thoughts of the writer, is another example of Claircognizance. Practitioners say that the writer's hand forms the message, with the person being unaware of what will be written.

3. Someone asks you a question, of which you have no foreknowledge, and the information simply comes to you out of the blue. You can simply see it in your head and share it with others.

4. You've never tried to do something like beading before. And when you try it, you can see the process and the pattern all the way to the completed project in your mind as you work, even without instructions.

5. You've never played a musical instrument in your life, but when you sit in front of a piano you simply know how to play your favorite song. Understanding the keys, even without understanding how to read music or having instruction in the piano, and being able to play the song simply happen.

Some More Basic Information

Some people believe Claircognizance is given to us by spirit guides, angels, or through contact with ones own higher self. They believe this information is accessed through a person's Crown Chakra.

Another place people assert that this information is taken from is called the Akashic Records. The Akashic Records is a term used in theosophy to describe a compendium of mystical knowledge encoded in a non-physical plane of existence. These records are described to contain all knowledge of human experience and the history of the cosmos. They are metaphorically described as a library and other analogues commonly found in discourse on the subject include a "universal computer" and the "Mind of God".

Beyond these assertions, those who are Claircognizant tend to be people who are cognitive, cerebral and/or analytical in nature. This simply means that the people who tend to have this ability tend to see a topic in analytical terms, and can break these things down into step by step instructions, without being instructed in them. It also means that they are in touch with and can utilize their own inner intuition. They will often use this ability in their daily lives without ever realizing that they have it either, because it is not a well known ability like Clairvoyance or Clairsentience.

Likewise, if you've ever had an 'epiphany' or a 'divinely inspired idea', that would be categorized as Claircognizance. It is not a gift that is limited to people who exhibit it on a regular basis. Everyone is capable of having these moments of clarity, because Claircognizance is all about that clarity of thought.

A great example of such divine inspirations which came from deity can be found in the idea of the Greek/Roman Muse. Muses, in Greek mythology, nine goddesses, daughters of the god Zeus, king of the gods, and of Mnemosyne, the goddess of memory. The Muses were believed to inspire all artists, especially poets, philosophers, and musicians. By late Roman times (3rd century to 5th century), each Muse was believed to preside over a particular art: Calliope was the muse of epic poetry; Clio of history; Euterpe of lyric poetry sung to the accompaniment of the flute; Melpomene of tragedy; Terpsichore of choral songs and the dance; Erato of love poetry sung to the accompaniment of the lyre; Polyhymnia of sacred poetry; Urania of astronomy; and Thalia of comedy.

How To Develop Your Claircognizance

  • Automatic writing is suitable for receiving claircognizant information, as it often comes through in big chunks. Open a word document or get a piece of paper and a pen and ask your Higher Self a question. Write down whatever comes into your mind in response - it doesn’t matter if it sounds like a load of nonsense at first, no-one will read it but you. Make sure the conscious mind is only a spectator in this exercise - don’t allow your mind to think about the information you’re getting. The first time I did this, I got three pages of nonsense from my subconscious mind. When I persisted with it, I began to channel some insights which surprised me in their clarity and wisdom. Now whenever I want to tune in to my guides or Higher Self, I open a word document and start typing and my claircognizance begins to take over.
  • Just setting the intention for your claircognizance to develop will start the process! Write your intention down as this will make it more powerful.
  • Make time for intuitive guidance. If you don’t already meditate, start a meditation practice, as just five minutes a day will help you to tune in more to your intuition. Meditation helps to quieten your mind and Divine guidance can come through a quiet mind more easily than a distracted one. Claircognizant information often comes through to me when I’m meditating. When I’m meditating, I imagine my crown chakra (the chakra on the top of my head) opening up and I often receive spontaneous intuitive insights upon doing that. Some people like to visualize a funnel being placed upon the crown chakra, to funnel the intuitive guidance from the Divine Intelligence. When you’re in a relaxed state and ready to receive intuitive guidance, if none is forthcoming, start the process by asking a question of your Higher Self and see what comes into your mind.
  • Often your claircognizance is already operating and waiting to be recognized as guidance. Become more aware of your thoughts. In particular be very aware of what thoughts you are having when you meet someone new or when you’re being told about a situation that you know little about. See what you glean about that person/situation between the lines and if you can, get it validated.

To Improve Claircognizance

  • Find a quiet comfortable room in which to meditate.
  • The room should be light and airy. Natural light is obviously best, but artificial is acceptable.
  • You may wish to light scented candles or Joss sticks. Lighter fragrances, such as lavender are more suitable than heavier ones. White or pale blue candles are best.
  • Subdued mood music or silence will complete the mood.
  • Sit quietly in the middle of the space for about 2-3 minutes. Close your eyes and centre yourself.
  • Focus your attention on the Crown of your head. You will not be able to see it, so come out of yourself until you outside your body and looking down on yourself from a distance of 2-3 feet.
  • Visualize a cone or speaker about a metre wide above your head. I always visualise something like a Wizards hat, but with a wider brim.
  • Open yourself to any impressions you receive, no matter how faint or unusual they may be. As something comes in to your mind move towards it and open yourself up to receive further information.
  • As you develop your abilities you will be able to direct your thoughts to a specific event or situation to predict specific things.
  • You should also be receptive to Claircognizance in your daily life. As impressions leap in to your head, take note of them and give them the freedom to develop and expand.
  • With practice your accuracy will improve and you will become one of those people who "just know".

A Claircognizance Exercise

While sitting quietly, close your eyes and focus your attention on the top of your head. Visualize a large funnel or cone above your head, the narrowest point just above your head, extending upward to the widest point, about a foot above your head. Notice any impressions you receive, no matter how faint or unusual they may be. You can do this while thinking about a specific event or situation, and see if you can predict certain things, such as things that might happen to you that day, or perhaps people you will run into unexpectedly. Or you can just do this in a general way, by opening yourself to whatever may come through. It is important to acknowledge what you receive. Don't just chalk it up to imagination right away. Make a note of what you perceive, no matter how strange or farfetched it might seem at first. With practice you'll discover your accuracy improving, and likely this ability will begin activating itself without any effort on your part. You'll be one of those people who say, "I just know."

Questions About Empathy

What is Empathy? Is it just a definition?

Empathy is the capability to share and understand another's emotionand feelings and is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes".

I believe it is much more than just a definition.

Is it a list of common traits that anyone could find a way to relate to or is it something more?

16 Common Traits Of An Empath

1. Empaths are quiet achievers but expressive in area's of emotional connection. They find that talking about emotional issues is a great outlet that aids in undertanding themselves and others.

2. Some empaths can be the opposite of what an empath 'should' be because they are overwhelmed or unable to handle emotion and what they feel in the world around them so they block their feelings.

3. They can be focused outward, toward what others feel, rather than themselves. This is a common trait to many people who have not gone through a process of self development.

4. They avoid disharmony caused by emotionally turbulent situations. This type of situation can easily create an uncomfortable feeling because an empath feels this emotion.

5. Empaths are emotionally sensitive to violence and general chaos.

6. Empaths are sensitive to loud noise and televison. In particular, television programs that depict emotional drama like the news and police shows.

7. Thery struggle to comprehend acts of cruelty and crime that involves hurting others.

8. They struggle to comprehend suffering in the world and are often idealists who theorise about fixing the worlds problems.

9. Are often found working as volunteers, with people, animals or the environment.

10. They are expressive so they can often be found in areas of music or the arts.

11. They often have the ability to draw others to them. This includes children and animals as they have a warmth and compassion that is beyond normal You may find that strangers always talk to you if you are an empath.

12. They can be good listeners as they generally have an interest in other people.

13. Empaths can be moody or have large mood swings due to overwhelming thoughts, feelings and emotion.

14. They are likely to have had, other paranormal experiences in their life. This could be astral projection, psychic ability or a variety of other experiences.

15. Empaths are daydreamers that have difficulty keeping focused. This is common with people who deal more IN emotion and neglect other area's of their mind.

16. Like many people on a spiritual path Empaths frequently experience déjà vu and synchronicities. This is something that occurs to everyone however empaths are often more aware and therefore 'look out' for it.

I believe it is much more than a set of traits that could described anyone. It is a way of life, as much as it is a gift.

Is it a psychic ability or something that everyone has the ability to experience in some capacity or other? I'll offer an explanation from one website I found interesting, Empathic Psychic Abilities, to answer this question:

Perhaps the most common aspect of naturally occurring mental powers are empathic psychic abilities. This is the ability of a person to experience the same feelings or sensations felt by another. Empathic psychic abilities are exhibited even by people who doubt the existence of spiritual forces that can be tapped into. Almost everyone has heard the phrase "sympathy pains", and most of us have had moments to which this phrase could be applied. While these are not always empathic psychic abilities being exhibited, they often are.

Many people who experience empathic psychic abilities find themselves avoiding situations where they will be subjected to severe traumatic sensations. For example, a nurse who has empathic psychic abilities would be well advised to avoid working in the emergency room, as the result could be quite debilitating. It could be counter-productive for a person with empathic psychic abilities, because they often become afflicted by sensations identical to the ones experienced by the patient.

It is also common to feel these empathic psychic abilities in non-painful ways. Mothers report experiencing strong emotions felt by their children, even though they are separated by vast distances. Loved ones often report feelings of extreme joy and contentment when their spouse or loved one is given an unexpected bonus, or some other form of enjoyable coincidence, even though there is no physical contact between them.

Is it something that a person suffers with, like an illness all their life, if they are an Empath, or is there a way to learn to work with it and use it to help oneself and others?

The answer to this one is simple to explain and much harder to do, because the answer has much to do with the individual in question and how they approach this gift. The simple answer is that if a person approaches it with a firm foundation of self worth, which means that they base their worth on their innate value and not on the opinions, thoughts and feelings of others, then it can be understood and growth can occur from it. If it is approached as a gift to help a person, who lacks true self worth, find value in themselves from external sources, it will only cause that person to fall into depression and despair in the long run.

Buddhism says I am whole and complete as I am. I don't understand. How do I make that happen? How do I apply that to being a Healthy Empath?

Again the explanation is quite simple, but is much harder to apply to your life. You are indeed whole and complete. But that is a foreign concept to you, as well, I would bet. You can't see yourself that way because you've always felt like something was missing in your life. Perhaps a big gaping hole in your heart you've tried all kinds of things to fill, even the use of your empathic skills to help people in the pursuit of filling that hole. Has it consumed your life? Have you had trouble with relationships because you perhaps tried to use them, as well, to fill that hole? What about drugs, alcohol, and other addictive behaviors? Its all a pattern, if you let yourself see it. All of them circle around one central theme ~ that big gaping hole (or how ever you wish to describe it). Your entire life has probably been circling that one theme, if you can relate to what I'm saying.

Now the answer that has been staring you in the face, but was so foreign you couldn't accept it. All of that is illusion. You wear yourself thin and finally out completely running in circles and dancing around the answer you don't want to face. This is emotional dissociation, because the one thing you refuse to do in all of these things is deal with you. The answer is you, and again, the value you place on yourself. Its just that simple: you.

How do you apply that to Empathic abilities? The question above answers that question. Its all about your approach and your perspective. If you spend all of your time worrying about filling that hole, that is all you will spend your time doing. Even helping people seems meaningless after a while, when the shine disappears off of it and the compliments stop coming. Its an act of futility unless you are able to value yourself first. Because once you can do that, you will be able to genuinely set yourself aside, because you don't have those worries and concerns anymore, to help people for no other reason than you can help them. It won't be about you seeking accolades. It will be about helping others (if that is what you really wish to do with your life of course). That is real altruism. That is also empathy in its purest form.

Is there a process for understanding Empathy? All of the discussions on this blogsite give me a headache and confuse me.

The process to understanding the gift of Empathy begins with understanding ourselves. All of the discussions offered here are pieces to that puzzle. They offer insights piece by piece, so you are not overwhelmed at any one point in the process. You receive information, definitions, processes at many different levels, and insights into yourself (if you are willing to do the self analysis that is asked of you), to make understanding Empathy an easy process.

The more you understand about yourself, your own motivations, your own desires and dreams, and so on, the easier it is to understand other people. Because the truth is that we are all not so different beneath the surface. We all have the potential and the capacity to do the same amazing or horrifying things. Understanding the why that exists beneath the surface, whether it is your own issues or someone elses, takes the mystery out of it. It also takes away the possibility for prejudices to rise up. Understanding does away with judgment, even if you don't find something personally tasteful. Your emotions, your experiences, your perspective on issues, pictures, and other things, are the keys to understanding other peoples emotions. It is like a portkey into someone else's mind.

If I don't want to be 'altruistic' with my empathic gifts, what are some real world uses for the gift of Empathy?

Customer service. In every industry, empathy is applied to understand the customer's wants and needs, to engender coworker relationships and facilitate and motivate team work, to help balance the hierarchy of employer/employee needs, and to simply build trust in the work environment, whatever the connection: employee/employer, employee/customer, etc.

In personal relationships, if used in a healthy way of course, it can engender trust, form deep and lasting bonds of friendship and/or love, offer support to others when they are in need, and speak with a truth that will be heard and respected when it is offered, even if the person doesn't want to face the issue in question.

Empathy is the mark of Leaders throughout this world, because they must always take into consideration the needs and wants of those they serve. Because to be a Leader, one must learn to serve others. A real Leader is not a dictator, a know it all, or an intellectual superior. A Leader is an Empath.

No matter how you choose to use it, its about altruism in the end, because you must learn to take others into consideration. Whether you teach, lead, work in customer service, or simply apply it to personal relationships, it is an asset.

Why does an Empath always end up being a Counselor to others, whether they are trained or not?

Empathy is not just a psychic gift. Whether one is deemed an Empath or not, it is used in all kinds of fields. One primary use of this is exemplified in that of the Therapist or Counselor. They are trained to use this ability in the service of helping others, whether they are an Empath or not. Empaths, as opposed to being training, use this gift naturally to do this. People in need, which includes just about the whole global population, flock to this type of person, because they percieve someone who can help them, will take the time to genuinely listen to their problems, and offer support.

No sense being embittered or cynical about what is a natural human inclination. It simply is what it is, just as you are what you are. Denying it or ignoring it won't make it go away. You just have to learn to balance this with your own wants, needs and desires, because you are also a person in need sometimes. You are just as important as anyone who you choose to help.

Can I choose to be an Empath? Is it hereditary? Can Empaths be made through abuse or trauma? And 'I am a True Empath, because I was born this way, compared to those frauds who claim it!'

Empathy is a gift everyone has. It is true that if it is felt in elevated levels it can be deemed a gift and/or ability that is sometimes thought to be psychic in nature. But ego plays no part in it. To claim to be an Empath as opposed to anyone else, in the attempt to make yourself look better or set yourself above others, is the mark of someone who has issues with ego, whether that is to much of it or a lack of faith in themselves they attempt to cover up with inflated descriptions of themselves. The title Empath doesn't make you any better or worse than anyone else. But the term 'True' Empath, as opposed to simply an Empath, is a mark of prejudice.

Can it be hereditary? Yes. Can it occur through things like abuse or trauma? Yes. Can one choose to be an Empath, and work toward that goal and make it a reality? Yes. Are there real frauds out there who will use and/or abuse you with such claims? Yes, sadly, there are.

Why don't you write a book on this stuff or teach a class on this stuff, instead of offering it for free on a blog site?

I believe that this information, all of which was found on the internet through diligent study, should be offered freely to help people grow, nuture and understand themselves better. Self help means just that, you help yourself. I have learned and grown through the accumulation of this material in equal meassure as anyone else who has used it for themselves. Why shouldn't I share that with anyone who wants the material, when I'm done with it? Offering it through this venue keeps it free for everyone's use and allows me, at the same time, to keep growing as I walk my own path, as well. ^_^