Thursday, November 5, 2009

To Dream, To Hope, To Speak

To speak or not to speak, that is the question (at least for this blog). To hope or not to hope, that is also the question. And to dream of ourselves as something more or to be complacent, is equally the question.

Have you ever thought you might be insecure? Might you have low self esteem? Have you ever thought about yourself in terms of wanting to die? Have you lost hope before? Have you given up on your dreams? Are you afraid to speak?

Have you ever had someone say something nasty about you? Have you ever been the victim of prejudice and abuse? Have you ever been treated like you had no value? What did you do when you came face to face with those situations? Did you speak out about it? Did you defend yourself? Could you see your own innate value, outside of the other person's view point and opinion? And did their opinion truly matter that much to you?
“As a solid rock is not shaken by the wind, so wise men are not moved amidst praise and blame.”
~~The Buddha
Whether it is validation through praise or prejudice through derision, your value is already established. It exists outside of praise and outside of blame. And while, within this world, you will most certainly be judged by others, this should not halt your journey and your sense of purpose. Nor should the voices of others be the deciding factor in our worth.
"He that wrestles with us strengthens our nerves and sharpens our skill. Our antagonist is our helper."
~~Edmund Burke
All to often people get lost in the praise of others and in the anguish of prejudice. And this speaks to Empaths and Non-Empaths alike. Their self esteem fluctuates with the offering or withholding of others momentary and ephemeral opinions, because the only way they view themselves is through the tinted lenses of other people's eyes.

But at the core of each person, beyond the ego persona shaped by the world around us, there is the real person we hide from the world. And that person hopes, dreams, and longs to speak what is left unsaid out of shame, guilt, or fear. But even hidden, that person, just beneath the surface, exists.

“If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don’t
If you like to win, but you think you can’t,
It is almost certain you won’t.

“If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow’s will-
It’s all in the state of mind.

“If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

“Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!”
~~Author Unknown

Learning to speak out in your own defense, speaks to the fact that you place value on yourself. It says you realize you have the right to speak. And that despite another person's estimation of your value, or lack there of, you still hold the right to speak, to hope and to dream. And you will still do it ~ speak, hope and dream.
"Hope is not blind optimism. It’s not ignoring the enormity of the tasks ahead or the roadblocks that stand in our path. It’s not sitting on the sidelines or shirking from a fight. Hope is that thing inside us that insists, despite all the evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us if we have the courage to reach for it and to work for it and to fight for it."
~~Barack Hussein Obama
Never walk blindly. Question and search out answers on your own. For this is how you establish a foundation upon which you can stand, which is not validated or destroyed by others and their opinions. For others can not touch what they had no hand in building.
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
~~Edmund Burke
The evil most noticeable in this world occurs where everyone can see it and judge it. And yet the most basic evil is letting someone else determine your value and your fate. It occurs when a person is to afraid or to complacent to stand up and say, 'This is my value' or 'This is what I have to contribute to this world' or 'This is my dream and I'm going to work toward it'.
“Nobody makes a greater mistake than he who does nothing because he could only do a little”
~~Edmund Burke
Another error in judgment, on the part of some people, is to imagine what they have to offer to others has no value, because it is small. Whether it is something small, like a smile and a nod offered to someone in passing, or something large, which could potentially change the world, it has value and it makes a significant difference. And almost everyone is capable, upon choosing, of offering even a small amount of hope to others.
“I long to accomplish great and noble tasks, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble. The world is moved along, not only by the mighty shoves of its heroes, but also by the aggregate of the tiny pushes of each honest worker.”
~~Helen Keller
Each of us longs to fill that hole that is within us. We just aren't sure what to fill it with. Some fill it with religion. Some fill it with morals. Some fill it with altruism. Some fill it with relationships. Some fill it with pleasure. Some fill it with recreational drugs/alcohol. But everyone seeks to fill it, despite what they choose to fill it with.

Have you ever noticed how focusing on the filling up of that internal void, within us all, takes one away from their main purpose? No matter what it is we seek to fill that hole up with, it is a distraction. And perhaps it is a mechanism of escape, as well. It can ultimately lead to feelings of stagnation and impotence, because whatever it is that is used to fill that void, never quite does the job. Its like a mask used to cover the wound instead of heal it.
“Truth, like gold, is to be obtained not by its growth, but by washing away from it all that is not gold.”
~~Leo Tolstoy
Does this speak for everyone, though? Certainly not. But it should give one pause with something to ponder, either way.

The point to this is not to judge, it is to say that we all go through this and when you can reach beyond that void, you can learn to stand on your own. You can build that foundation. And you won't be afraid to speak, hope and dream.

And then, you can stand up in the light and speak your truth, despite those who will fight you and insult you. Because the opinions of others are momentary and fleeting. Yours is the one you must live with all of your life.

“I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul.”
~~William Ernest Henley
What you do with your life, who you let in it, whose opinions matter to you, is completely up to you. But never forget that it is your journey, not anyone else's to make or decide for you.

Think about it.

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